“I Like You, I Do”
Like vs. Love
My mother has always given the honest truth, even when you weren’t expecting to hear it! One thing that she has always honed in on was the importance of liking the person that you’re with. It’s true. I did not realize that until I was much older. Or more importantly, not until I experienced it for myself.
There are people in my life that I would say I absolutely love. Cannot imagine not knowing them, but in the same breath, can say that I could go the rest of my life and never see them again. Because now my dislike for them is so strong that it is visceral. I can feel it in my bones. I don’t know if you have experienced anything like that, but it may happen at some point, and if it never does than you are one of the lucky ones.
At some point, I loved that person with my whole being. Then at some point, the love remained, but liking them fell far to the wayside. There were signs at the beginning. I saw things early on that I didn’t like about them, but my love for them overshadowed all the things that rubbed me the wrong way.
What I have learned over time in the dating and relationship game only seemed to boomerang back to my mother’s words, “make sure you really like them.” So what is most important, like or love? Obviously, both are crucial; otherwise, what is a relationship anyway? But often, we focus so much on love that we do not give as much credence to liking the person we are with.
What I have come to know for sure over the years in experiencing love and loss. Most often, the people that we remain friends with after the relationship is over are the people that we genuinely like as a human. Not realizing that is more often what can be the glue to a lasting relationship. Liking a person makes it really easy to resolve disagreements. You genuinely like being around them, you’d rather get along and make things right than any misalignment.
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My mother knew what she was talking about! That is why we should listen to those who have lived a full life. They know because they have experienced it themselves and are attempting to spare you any potential regrets. Unfortunately, we more often than not learn the hard way. So, as I continue to dodge the old lovers I’d never want to see again. I’m finally taking my mother’s advice. Make sure you like the one you love!